If I could sum up what I believe is the number one factor that gets in theway of achieving your goals it would be that you cannot achieve a goal that you do not have.

You gotta have one to get one.

Pretty profound, huh?

That sounds so obvious, but we so easily forget it. We have wishes, desires, or dreams, but then don't turn them into goals.

And then we wonder why we don't make progress toward our wishes, desires, and dreams.

It's a strange sense of entitlement that says I will get it just because I think it.

The old saying is true -

if you do not know where you are going, any road will get you there. This is a fairly certain prescription for getting lost.

Let's follow that old saying with a newer one -

if you don't take charge of where your life is going by setting goals, there are plenty of people in the world who will be happy to take charge of your life for their own agenda and do not have your best interest at heart.

So many times we get caught up in goal dreaming that we never do any goal setting. And you have to do goal setting before your can do goal getting.

You have to know where you are going.

Jeff Herring

Jeff is a marriage and family therapist, singles and relationship coach, mentor coach, speaker, syndicated relationship columnist and author.

Jeff has a full time private practice in Tallahassee in which he specializes in couples, teen and parent counseling. He also is a relationship coach specializing in working with couples and singles. Some of his professional activities include:

==> Internationally syndicated relationship columnist through Knight-Ridder/Tribune Media Services, with a weekly readership of over 10 million worldwide

==> Sought after speaker for organizations, associations, churches, and corporations

==>Twice weekly appearances on The Steve and Sara Show on Magic 107.1

==> Author of "Keep the Changes: 52 Tools for Successful Living" a collection of his best columns, as well as several e-books including "How to Create a Passionate and Loving Relationship.........Forever," "How to Beat the BOZOs: Dealing with difficult people without becoming one," and "Tame Your Teen: THE survival guide for parenting your teenager.

==> Founder and CEO of TheArticleGuy.com

==> Founder and CEO of SecretsofGreatRelationships.com

==> Founder and CEO of ParentingYourTeeanger.com

==> Founder and CEO of ToolsforSuccessfulLiving.com

==> President of BuildingYourIdealPractice.com

==> President of ConsciousDatingTallahassee.com